In today's society, many parents have transferable jobs. Others sometimes prefer to take up jobs outside the current location for better job prospects. In either case, this usually involves moving with the family. This means that you will most likely have to get your pre-teenager adjusted with the move. He may find adjusting to his new school and new environment especially difficult. One reason for this is he is afraid of losing his old friends who may have been his companions for quite some time. As a loving and caring parent, you can help your child get adjusted with this transition using the following tips:
Communicate your plans of moving to your child as early as possible. This gives him time to prepare himself for the event.
Try and make the move during your child's annual holidays. This makes it easier for your child to cope with the syllabus rather than getting adjusted mid-term.
Get your children to participate in all activities relating to the move. These can include getting your children to pack their belongings by themselves.
If your child has problems in making new friends or getting adjusted to his new school, try the role-play approach. Encourage him to introduce himself to his peers.
Ask your child if he is affected by the move. Assure him that you are there to help him out and make him feel comfortable in his new school.
Encourage your child to participate in extra-curricular activities both at school and outside.
Even before he starts attending the new school, talk to him about what changes you expect. Also, ask him what changes he expects.
Set up a sleep routine for your child. It is a good idea to get the child acquainted with the new school schedule a week or two before his first day.
Teach your pre-teenager to pack his books the previous day itself. He can also keep his uniform for the next day ready.
Talk to your child about events such as school day, extra-curricular activities, new friends, upcoming school events and so on. Talking can help to minimise his anxiety.
Make the move fun. You can get children of your child's age in the new neighbourhood to come over for a party.
Take your child to the playground in the neighbourhood and encourage him to make new friends.
Give your child something to look forward to on making the move. But make sure that this is a promise that you can keep. This can be something like agreeing to keep a pet. It can even be as simple as taking him out for his favourite pizza on the day you move.
Encourage your child to exchange addresses and phone numbers with his old school friends so that he can continue maintaining contact with them. This will make him feel less out of place.
If it is possible, try visiting your new home once before you actually make the move. This can help your child get an idea on what he can expect in the new place.
Meet his school teacher on the first day and request her assistance to help him settle down.
Remember that moving to a new place can make your child feel insecure. So you have to be patient and understanding with him. While you can repeatedly stress on the plus points of the new place, you can tell him how you understand his apprehensions. Assure him that you are always there for him.